Day the Music Died Written by Jersey Joe

Show logoMy pro gun stance comes from a very different point of view. I have about all the arguements pro and anti gun stance. To start my point of view it go back to when I was about 9 years old. Not to sound cliche, but it does start on a very beautiful day. I was staying at my mothers best friend Mary Jean’s house, which happened often. Why that stands out ended up play a huge part of the life. Before I was to stay with my moms best friends house, I had agree to go to work with my father. This was not out of the ordinary. During the summer I would often go to work with my dad. I learned how to weld, and learned not to pick up spent welding rods.
So the day before I got the chance to stay at Mary Jeans house, I was reminded by my father that I suppose to go with him to work. My thinking that day was, hey I can go to work with my Dad any time I want. To stay a Mary Jean’s house was not that often. Being about 9 years old I did what any 9 year old would do, I threw a fit. Hind sight being 20/20 I regret that decision for a very very long time. Sometimes even now, I still regret that decision. So my dad gave in not wanting a pouting kid sitting around all day. I would love to go back to the day and change my younger selfs mind. I wonder how my life would have turned out then.
So the events that day will never leave my family. I remember being at Mary Jeans house. Her mom was there watching me. I was making scrambled eggs that Mary Jean had just taught me to make. I remember her coming home early from work and standing behind me. She said Joe your father has been shot. Now at first it did not register, not because of shock. The reason I did not get it at first is my father worked with a material called shot. It was fine metal balls that was used in his company’s shot blasting machines. Think of sand and that is the size. So we are standing there and I asked you mean he got hurt by the shot he works with, the stuff makes concrete turn into ice. I have fallen on the floor plenty of times due to the shot material being on the floor. She said no and explained that he was shot by someone with a gun.
What she explained would have a ripple effect through out my entire family’s life. What had happened is a man of unknown identity, had walked into the repair/shipping area. My dad and his boss, Bill, were talking. It was around noon time, when he walked in through the industry garage door. It was not uncommon for contractors to show up with no notice. They both turned to the man, when he pulled a hand gun out pointing it at both men. He then had my father step slightly away and turn around. My father kept his head turned , what he saw he never thought would happen. He had spent 4 years in the Coast Guard and was not prepared. What happened next as my father has told me, happened quick. This unknown man pulled the trigger twice point blank against Bill’s head. My father discribed what he saw, as if you melted a candle. No violent movement back, nothing like the movies or TV. Bill was dead instantly just fell straight to the floor as if someone turned a switch off.

My father watched as this happened, just as he started to turn around. This unknown man turned and fired two shots at my father. One struck him in his shoulder and exited striking part of his chin. The second shot entered his posterior inches from his spine, and what could be described as pin balling around in his abdominal area and exiting anterior. At which my father said it felt as if a bee had stung him and fell to the ground. The unknown man calmly walked out the garage door as he had entered, as if he did not have a care in the world. The people that worked in the front section of the building never knew. It was not uncommon for loud noises to come from the shop, so the people in the front section of the building paid no attention to the noise.

My father later told us, that he laid there bleeding out, that he felt tired and sleepy. He know if he fell asleep that was it, no one would have checked on them. No one would have known what had happened for several hours or till that night. Now my father also stated he knew if he did not get up he would be dead and that my mother would track him down dead or not. He got up and used a push broom half as a crutch, half as a possible weapon. He did not know if the man was right outside, coming back or what. He then walked around the building to the company in the front half of the building blood dripping. He told me that when he walked in, it scared the hell out of the secretary. From there EMS was called, and thank God Hamilton Township had just started using paramedics.

My father went through hell that day and the days that followed. Till this day Hamilton Township Police has not found who the man was. What followed with my family was a long way from anything normal. My father went through 23 surgeries in 10 years. There were times right after the shooting when he returned home that I had to help. What was to come neither my family or I had a clue. My dad had a temporary colostomy bag, that was put in place while his intestine healed. I had to help clean the part of the intestine that was exposed, and change his bag. Still till this day I can not eat a stewed tomato, as it reminds me of what the intestine looked like. I did it willingly, as I had felt guilt. I felt that guilt because if I had not fought him, my father and I would have been out to lunch at the time of the shooting. I know I could not predict, but that still does not help.

My family before that day was trusting, never locked our doors at night. We believed in the good of people. That day was the end of that fairy tale thinking. I learned what the real world was real fast that day and the days to come. Now I write all of that story not for sympathy, but to explain why I hate Gun control and any attempts at banning.

Now that unknown man was and is a criminal. He did not care what laws were in place. For what ever reason he felt that he had to commit such a heinous act. He did not care that the state prohibited concealed carry. He did not care that murder was against the law. In New Jersey it is a “may-issue” state and getting a concealed carry permit is next to impossible. Permit applicants must “specify in detail the urgent necessity for self-protection, as evidenced by specific threats or previous attacks which demonstrate a special danger to the applicant’s life that cannot be avoided by means other than by issuance of a permit to carry a handgun.

As a result of this tough standard, New Jersey is effectively a “no issue” state unless one is a retired law enforcement officer. So in simple terms they violate the residents right to bear arms but have armed guard to protect themselves. I know the governors have armed guards, but again it shows that our elected officals feel they are better and more important then their constituents, but I am getting a head of myself. What these unconsitutional laws do are two things. One it makes dead bodies it makes it so that they can not defend themselves and two it creates victim.

My family now does not live in the not so great state of New Jersey. I now proudly live in the State of Florida, where I have the right to protect myself and the means to do so. Now I know it does not guarantee that I wont be attacked and lose. What it does do is two things. One it creates doubt in a criminal’s mind and second it at least increases my chance to defend my family and my life. Now with all the talk about guns and defending one self. I had a conversation with my dad and asked him. He agreed that if he had been able to carry he at least he would have had a chance a chance to fight back.
What the anti gun lunatics do not understand is that, being defensless means you have next to no chance. It all depends on what that criminal wants to do. It is his choice whether you live or die. With a way to defend yourself, it may not guarntee anything, but at least gives you a chance to come out alive. I get in this conversation with my in laws. Last time I saw my mother in law we had the discussion and I reminded her of what my father went through. Now the last question I asked really made sense to her.
It was simple. I asked her ” Would you rather I call and say your daughter and granddaughter are dead because I could not protect them, or would she rather get a phone of me saying your daughter and grand daughter are fine and alive but I had to shot the criminal to save them. I asked her which phone call would she rather get”. Especially with me reminding her of my father and what were the chances of that happening. Now I can respect that some people do not want a weapon and that is their choice.
It is the people that want me defenseless again. Those who want to make me a victim again. No one is more important then my wife and daughter. So if me carrying offends you oh well. Your feelings are not more important then my daughter, wife or family. These anti gun lunatics use all sorts of tactics, from insulting and cussing. To making up wild exaggerations of how if we were allowed to carry and protect our self. The street would turn into the “wild west”. The funny part about that statement is the wild west was not as wild as TV and movies make it out to be. If one pays attention wild west story all revolve around a hand full of story and just keep reimaging them.
They talk about how all the kids would shoot themselves or their friends. Well that example is a little dramatic. While there have been kids dying because they thought it was a toy. While all those cases are sad and maddening, it goes to people not paying attention, lack of education for both the adult and the children. That also goes to, why punish all for the minorty mistakes, when compared to the total population of the USA.

What drives me nuts, is that there are over 1,000 federal gun laws. My question is simple: do you really think that adding one or two new laws will stop a criminal from breaking the law? The law that keeping being proposed are already laws. The other is President Obama and Vice President Biden have both said. We do not have the money or man power to enforce our current laws. So how are we suppose to add even more gun control laws, that will never be enforced. When pressed for what law do anti gun lunatics think will stop gun violence , well they never can answer that question and normally leads to them name calling and cussing.

The other anti gun lunatic attempt to prove there side, is by comparing us to other countries. No not comparing to all countries, they cherry pick which countries to compare to. Well my response is two fold, one if I cherry picked the countries I could make the U.S. the safest country and secondly if these countries are so much better and you want to live like them. Would it not be easier then fighting how many millions of Americans to change our constitution, by just moving to those countries. This statement is not meant if you dont like it you can leave. Now, let me see if I can explain. Let say I live in a neighborhood I dont like, but I love the neighborhood three sections over. Now in my section out of a 100 house there are maybe 10 people that do not like the neighborhood but the rest like it. Would it not be easier to sell your house and move to the neighborhood that you like. It would be easier all around.

When I give my story to the anti gun lunatics, for some reason (yes I know why) they always skip my story and the simple question that follows. What strict gun laws helped my dad. What strict gun law protected my dad. Where were all these anti gun lunatics to help to change a colostomy bag. To offer help transporting my dad back and forth to hospitals or doctors appointment. I can answer those question those laws made my dad and our family a victim and nothing else. Those laws only help the criminals just as those Gun Free zones. Gun free zones only create dead bodies and victims. Criminals pray on the weak and defenseless. Anti Gun Lunatics want to serve us to criminals on a silver plate. They create Gun Free zones, which are nothing more then the Golden Coral of the criminal world. Look at the last 6 of 7 “mass “shootings they were in Gun Free Zones and the 7th started on a Gun Free zone but finished on the streets.

Anti gun lunatics will not make me a VICTIM not matter how much it scares them. If me carrying a inanimate object scare you that bad, you should see a therapist or concider moving to one of those “safer gun free countries”. As I have read countless time and been told by friend that in live in a couple of those countries, the gun ban did not stop the violence, infact it has increased. The biggest difference now is they can not defend themselves. In Uk several years ago ” doctors’ kitchen knives ban call A&E doctors are calling for a ban on long pointed kitchen knives to reduce deaths from stabbing. A team from West Middlesex University Hospital said violent crime is on the increase – and kitchen knives are used in as many as half of all stabbings. They argued many assaults are committed impulsively, prompted by alcohol and drugs, and a kitchen knife often makes an all too available weapon. The research is published in the British Medical Journal.”

So please instead of turning our country inside out, lets both take the simpler path. You want what these other countries have and the majority love the way our coutry has been for 239 years. Please do not confuse the loudest for the majority. It just means you speak louder. The majority and poll after poll has shown the majority does not what any strict gun control laws.
Also do not count and think the most Bloomberg site or as you call them grassroots anti gun sites, equals the majority. Those sites happened to be started and funded by Bloomberg. On that point bring me to a hypocrisy that Anti Gun Lunatics have, they complain about the NRA. Anti gun lunatics blame every thing and anything on the NRA. Anti gun lunatic think all pro gun people are NRA member, and a lot of other yip yapping. Anti Gun Lunatics feel it is ok for Bloomberg and his umpteen “grassroots” anti gun sites to lobby and buy off politicians, funding elections as long as they push anti gun. As we all know when the Anti Gun Lunatics have nothing to back them they go to insult,belittling and cussing. That is when I know they have lost the conversation.
I dont not think we have a gun control issue, I think we have a self control issue!

I can say this simple I will not be a VICTIM AGAIN.


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